A user on Reddit shares her story about telling your feelings to your father before it’s too late. The user starts with this line, “My dad was not an emotional man. He never said he missed me, maybe he says ‘I love you’ every other year. We didn’t hug or joke around all that much.”
The user of Reddit perceived her father as a decent Dad but very distant. She thinks that her father doesn’t miss her while she’s studying in college.
However, a turnover of events changed the way she thinks of her father. Here’s the rest of her story.
“He passed away last year, and it was only after he died that I learned how much I meant to him.
My father kept everything. He had my first drawings, every awful piece of art or writing, cards and letters he’d written me that he’d been so shy he couldn’t send.”
“Everyone who spoke about him mentioned how proud he was of me, how he didn’t shut up about me.
My stepmom told me that my father cried regularly and stressed himself out about texting me just to check on me or talk to me.
He was worried that if he does that, he thinks he would annoy me and be an ‘overbearing’ father.
He used to collect things to send me in care packages but didn’t do it because he’s worrying that I wouldn’t like them.
When he did get a text from me, he’d spent 10 minutes laughing at whatever I said and trying to figure out what to say to make me laugh back.”
“Again, I thought the time between messages was boredom. I was so wrong. He was just socially anxious with his own daughter.”
“I never knew, and I never understood fully what I meant to him and I was deprived of the chance to show him how grateful I am for that. We both thought that we would annoy each other if we called or texted. Even though we both wanted to talk. We wasted so much time!”
Just Say I Love You
This story of the father-daughter relationship only proves that we will never know what we feel for each other if we don’t tell it to them personally.
A personal way to let people know that you care is if you tell them. Just say “I love you,” to the people that matters in your life especially to your father and mother. Don’t wait before it’s too late!
Share this with your friends to let them know the importance of communication and saying your feelings to each other.